1. Know your school's rules! You don’t want to get in trouble with the teachers or principal in your first year for breaking all sorts of rules you don’t even know about. Make sure you learn your school’s dress code as well as the other rules and then follow those rules! Making the teachers dislike you or making yourself seem like a troublemaker is only going to make things harder for you.2. Don’t pay attention to gossip. This is the best thing to do to avoid trouble in middle school. There will be lots of gossip and lots of people spreading malicious (really mean) rumors. Ignore those rumors, even when they’re about you, and if anyone tells or asks you about a rumor, tell them to ignore it and not spread it around. Rumors break friendships, create enemies, hurt feelings, and make things worse for everyone.
- Some rumors can be so hurtful that people feel they need to hurt themselves. You don’t want to be a part of that, do you? Help to stop rumors and save lives by standing up for people and not participating by spreading the rumor.
- Even if you know the information is true, if it is someone’s private business or sensitive information, you shouldn’t spread it around. You wouldn’t want someone spreading your personal secrets around, would you?
3. Choose your friends wisely. This is very important. Be friends with people who don’t start drama or participate in drama and you’ll avoid all of the worst things about middle school. Every group has a few problems, but if you suddenly feel like your life could be a Disney Channel show, you might want to consider a calmer group of friends
4. Don’t let your friends get you in trouble. Similarly to the step above, you shouldn’t be friends with people who get you in serious trouble. If someone asks you to lie about something important, do something illegal, or do something to hurt someone else DON’T DO IT. Don’t do ANYTHING that makes you feel uncomfortable or that you think is wrong. This is called peer pressure and it can lead to all sorts of problems.
- Don’t be afraid to tell an adult if someone asks or tells you to do something really bad. This doesn’t make you a snitch: it makes you a good person doing the right thing. If you make a bad decision at keep it to yourself, you may have to live with that guilt for the rest of your life.
5. Don’t do anything that will harm your body. Just like you don’t want to do something to hurt other people, you shouldn’t do anything to hurt yourself. Don’t do drugs, play choking games (or anything that someone tells you is a safe/legal high), or do any kind of self harm like cutting yourself. If you need help, there are ALWAYS people who will help you.
6. Don't worry about relationships. Now that you’re in middle school, you’ll start to feel a lot more grown up and you might find yourself wanting a boyfriend or a girlfriend. You’ll definitely have some pretty serious crushes! But relationships are hard, stressful, and usually cause more problems than they solve. Just enjoy having crushes and maybe flirt a little, but stay single and focus on having fun, making friends, and learning all sorts of
cool stuff!
7. Don’t worry about gym. Everyone worries about gym. You’ve probably heard that you’ll have to change your clothes in front of other girls or boys or maybe you’ve never been very good at gym and you feel embarrassed. What you have to remember is that everyone is worried and embarrassed.
- You might feel like everyone is watching you while you change, but they are really focusing on themselves! Everyone wants to just keep to themselves and change as quickly as possible!
- If you’re a girl and you feel self conscious about being on your period while you’re having to change, just wear black or brown underwear. No one will notice.
8. Learn how to solve problems. This is a really important skill, not just for getting through middle school but for getting through your whole life! If you learn good ways to solve problems, you’ll be able to handle anything that comes your way!
For example, you should learn to ask for help when you need it. Sometimes you’ll feel silly asking for help or you don’t want to admit that you’re having problems, but you shouldn’t. Everyone has problems and whoever you ask for help will totally understand: they’ve had to ask for help at some point too!
- Apologize and accept consequences when you’ve done something wrong. Refusing to acknowledge when you do something bad, even if you didn’t mean to, will just make things harder for you. You’ll feel guilty or you’ll have to deal with people being mad at you, and you don’t want that. If you spread a rumor, apologize. If you lie to a teacher, fess up.
- Communicate clearly, if you want to avoid a lot of problems. A lot of the time, rumors get started because someone misunderstands what you say or you misunderstand what they say. You might also accidentally offend someone if you say something you don’t mean. Be careful and conscientious about what you’re saying.
9. Believe that it gets better. We won't try to make middle school seem like it's the worst thing that will ever happen to you: it might be the happiest time in your life! But we also won't try and tell you that it's all awesome and like living in a Disney Channel sitcom either. It can be really hard. Just believe that there will be happy times, and there will be sad times, but no matter how bad it gets things will always get better.
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